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Thermometer Vs Thermostat Living

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Look at the graph below. This is a live recording of a Head of Operations of a large MNC. This recording was done using an advanced technology from Institute of Heart math, US. This biofeedback device helps us to measure the number of breaths per minute, depth of every breath, thoughts impacting the breath, the impact of heart rate and how breath, heart and brain work in synchrony at that particular moment (the technical word is psycho-physiological coherence)

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When you observe the graph you can find that the subject is breathing at the rate of 22 breaths per minute with an average heart beat above 100 and a 90% low brain coherence. This person is like an emotional volcano, ready to burst at his sub-ordinates with a slightest disruption of emotions. Many of his sub-ordinates are actually scared to approach him for any issues or help. He is an unfriendly autocratic leader who is completely unaware that this physiology has a greater impact on his psychology, emotions & actions.

Do you know anyone like this subject in your work-spot?

Heart is the switch board of the mind and when the mind racing against time with innumerable thoughts, it affects the heart beat and the breathing rate. He is a classic example of a thermometer based living. The mercury will rise instantly when exposed to conditions of slightest stress, sudden change in customer priorities, boss priorities, when someone criticizes, make a cynical remark or when client service/project go haywire in the corporate arena.

Have you experienced such situations involving instant raise in anger & emotions disrupting your physical, mental & emotional balance.

There is a very simple solution to bring a balance in our body & mind.

Welcome to the world of Thermostatic living!

Thermostatic living in times of crisis ensures inner balance & harmony. All the knowledge that you are going to read should be applied during times of crisis to experience what is meant by true balance & peak performance. But only when the knowledge is applied or practiced daily, it will help you in times of crisis.

Let’s proceed with this understanding….

Inner well-being & Peak Performance can be achieved by anybody when they understand the basic mechanism behind this world’s best super gadget called “My Body”.

Let us look at the graph below of the same subject after two minutes of training.

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The same subject whose heart was beating at 100+, was instantly brought down to 75 just by altering the way of breathing. The simple lesson to learn is we can instantly reset the thermometer rising to a thermostatic living by altering the way of breathing.

Every breath you inhale impacts the heart beat. The heart in turn impacts the brain. As mentioned by all the great masters & yogis, the way you breath determines which part of your brain to function and hence determines your peak performance & capabilities.

For the brain to achieve peak performance & inner well-being all you need to do is breathe slowly & deeply at 5 breaths per minute. This is an ideal breathing graph of 5 breaths per minute.

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By breathing slowly & deeply ensures an instant shift from the volcanic/thermometer living to thermostatic living.

On an average, we breathe between 14-20 times per minute. It is not an easy task to bring your breath rate to 5 immediately. It requires a consistent practice of at-least 10 minutes daily.

Do you have 10 minutes in your life to bring harmony & balance in your body & mind.

Then, start this practice for the next 21 days till it becomes a habit for you.

Always remember, habits deliver results.

Good Luck!

P.S: Do you know why we have two nostrils? I will share with you the science behind this in my next article.


How Curious are you? Da Vinci Technique


All of us enter into this world curious. Curiosity builds the natural impulse and it is the same impulse brought you here to this article too.

Great minds ask great questions. The questions you ask influence your quality of life.

One activity I am continuously involved in my life from the time I acquired language is questioning. I was very curious to know everything around me, including me. I have been scolded many a times by my school teachers, adults and family members not to ask crazy questions (I think they were struggling to answer my questions)

Why, What, How, When are the most prominent questions.

One statement which I had imbibed as a way of living is, “It is not the questions that you ask, but also the questions you fail to ask also determines your life”.

Today in all my workshops, I encourage people to ask lots of questions.

Before I share with a technique to enhance your curiosity quotient, tell me Are you curious? How do you know you are curious?

Complete the self-assessment checklist below; your answers will tell you how you are already using it—and where there is room for improvement. Then try your hand at cultivating your own Curiosity through the simple exercises that follow.

  • I keep a journal or notebook to record my insights and questions.
  • I take adequate time for contemplation and reflection.
  • I am always learning something new.
  • When I am faced with an important decision, I actively seek out different perspectives.
  • I am a voracious reader.
  • I learn from little children.
  • I am skilled at identifying and solving problems.
  • My friends would describe me as open-minded and curious.
  • When I hear or read a new word or phrase, I look it up and make a note of it.
  • I know a lot about other cultures and am always learning more.
  • I know or am involved in learning a language other than my native one.
  • I solicit feedback from my friends, relations, and colleagues.
  • I love learning

Based on the above checklist, how would you rate yourself on your curiosity quotient on a scale of 1 – 10 (1 being poor and 10 being excellent). There is nothing called right or wrong. This is how you feel now.

Now, let me share with you a very simple exercise to boost up your curiosity. This technique was first shared by Leonardo Da Vinci.

100 Question Technique: 

Find yourself a quiet place where you can relax with your journal for a good 45-60 minutes of uninterrupted Know Thyself time. Take a notebook & in your notebook, make a list of a hundred questions that are important to you. Your list  can include any kind of question as long as it’s something you deem significant: anything from “How can I save more money?” or “How can I have more fun?” to “What is the meaning and purpose of my existence?” and “How can I best serve the Creator?” Do the entire list in one sitting. Write quickly; don’t worry about spelling, grammar, or repeating the same question in different words (recurring questions will alert you to emerging themes).

Why a hundred questions? The first twenty or so will be “off the top of your head.” In the next thirty or forty themes often begin to emerge. And, in the latter part of the second half of the list you are likely to discover unexpected but profound material. When you have finished, read through your list and highlight the themes that emerge. Consider the emerging themes without judging them. Are most of your questions about relationships? Business? Fun? Money? The meaning of life?

Top Ten Questions 

Review your list of a hundred questions. Choose the ten that seem most significant. Then rank them in importance from one to ten. (Of course, you can add new questions or change the order at any time.) Do not attempt to answer them right now; you’ve done enough just putting them in writing in a place where you can easily find them.

The following questions are drawn from different people’s “top ten.” These questions are powerful catalysts to personal growth and fulfillment. Copy them in your notebook for contemplation:

  1. When am I most naturally myself? What people, places, and activities allow me to feel most fully myself?
  2. What is one thing I could stop doing, or start doing, or do differently, starting today that would most improve the quality of my life?
  3. What is my greatest talent?
  4. How can I get paid for doing what I love?
  5. Who are my most inspiring role models?
  6. How can I best be of service to others?
  7. What is my heart’s deepest desire?
  8. How am I perceived by: my closest friend, my worst enemy, my boss, my children, my coworkers, etc.?
  9. What are the blessings of my life?
  10. 10.What legacy would I like to leave?


I have created my own list of power questions. Ponder/ journal on these if you feel so inspired:

1. How can you use your strengths in greatest service to yourself, your family, your community and the world?

2. How can you get paid to do what you love?

3. What 5 things are you most proud of ? What 5 things will you be most proud of ?

4. If you had all the time and all the money in the world, what would you do?

5. What’s your ideal day look like? When do you get up? What do you do? With whom? For whom? Imagine it in vivid detail!

6. Who are your heroes/mentors/role models? Why? How are you like them?

7. What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

8. If you were guaranteed to succeed, what’s the #1 thing you would do? What else?

9. What is it that you and only you can do for the world?

10. How can you live in more integrity with your ideals? What’s the #1 thing you could start doing that would have the most positive impact in your life? What’s the #1 thing you could *stop* doing that would have the most positive impact in your life?!

You can increase your problem-solving skills, at work and at home, by honing your question-asking ability. For most people this requires shifting the initial emphasis away from focusing on “the right answer” and toward asking “Is this the right question?”

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Life lessons from a Human Cell – Live like a cell


Congratulations. I am delighted that you are reading this article. Why? Trillions of cells in your body somehow assemble in a curious, intricate and obliging manner to create YOU. It is an arrangement that is so special and custom designed only for you and will only exist this once. For the next many years(I hope so), these tiny cells without any complaints will engage in billion ways of team work & co-operative efforts to keep you intact and let you experience the grand event called “Life”. But, your microscopic cells doesn’t actually care about you-indeed, they don’t even know that you are there reading this article. Yet somehow for the period of your existence till you log out from life, they will keep you as YOU! What a miracle!

There are enough life lessons that can be learned from these micro-intelligent cells in our own body.

Lesson # 1 – Hoarding is not an option 

Every cell inside you and me functions with the smallest possible expenditure of energy. Typically, a cell stores only three seconds of food and oxygen inside its cell wall. The cell totally trusts on what is being provided at that particular moment only. Excessive consumption of food, air or water is not an option and not part of the natural design. Trillions of cells are performing this continuously, even right now, when you are reading this update. We are the bundle of these trillions of such micro-intelligent cells. When we just turn inward, we can learn this profound spiritual wisdom from your own cells. Live life simple, less is more and live in the moment. Do not worry about the future; do not hoard anything beyond your capacity. Force, control or struggle is not the way of life.

Lesson # 2 – Selfless Service is the motto

Every cell in your body is marching with this slogan “I am here to serve, I am here to inspire, I am here to love, I am here to live my truth”. Do you hear that? Every cell lives with a higher purpose. It is ready to die to protect the whole body. Every minute thousands of skin cells perish; immune cells die off in fighting against invading microbes. Every cell agrees to work for the welfare of the whole body. Selfishness is not an inherent option. Selfless service is the mantra. Just ask yourself, am I living like my own cell?

 Lesson # 3 – Be flexible 

The cells in the body do not have rigid belief system. They live moment to moment. Adaptability is their biggest strength. They remain flexible to address the immediate needs of the body. They live in full awareness. They do not get caught up in rigid habits. Like your cell, can you live a life of heightened awareness? Can you drop your rigid habits? It is a simple habit to form. Just sit for ten minutes observing instead of speaking.  Just sit quietly to sense how the body feels. If someone irritates you, without taking your attention away, keep asking yourself, what you ‘really’ feel beneath that anger until it is gone.

Lesson # 4 – Accept yourself & others without any judgement 

When you observe through microscope, you will find that every cell in your body has a set of unique functions. Liver cells functions are completely different and unique from that of stomach or spleen. Every cell recognizes that all of us are unique and important. They do not reject others, but understand and live by accepting and embracing all other cells. Every function in the body is interdependent onto others. Going alone is never an option. Acceptance & Team work is their mantra. Do you accept your own self? Do you accept your peers, colleagues, boss or your partner as they are? From now onwards, just spend five minutes every day thinking about the best qualities of the person you dislike. Read about a group/person/society that you consider intolerant and try to see the world from their point of view for five minutes.

Lesson # 5 – Communicate freely & effectively 

Cosmically powered cells in my body communicate continuously irrespective of the fact whether it likes it or not. The information should be transmitted and it agrees to serve as a channel for the flow of information. The messenger molecules race to any part of the body in no time to express even the smallest desire or intention or feeling. Refusing to communicate is never an option to the cells. Look at your own self. How many times you deliberately withdrew from a conversation or a communication flow. How many times you did not communicate what you actually intended. You fall prey to the mind intelligence rather than following the cosmically powered body intelligence. From now, let us appreciate or express our true feelings to other person immediately without holding it back. Create the habit of expressing at-least any one feeling of joy, happiness, remorse, embarrassment, guilt etc to the other person. Just allow it to flow through you. Let us communicate freely like the cell in our own body.

Lesson # 6 – Action & Non-action is essential for living 

What will happen if you do not sleep for one day? Why we need sleep is still a medical mystery and we become dysfunctional if we do not enjoy its benefits. In the silence of inactivity, the body is rejuvenated, restored & incubated. Every cell in the body obeys this nature cycle and enjoys this period of inactivity daily. It helps the body to realign the hormonal and chemical imbalances to maintain homeostasis. Cells intuitively understand that being obsessively busy and active is not a healthy option. In this materialistic world, we are the busiest creatures today. We are in continuous action right from morning to night either at home or office. We are very busy satisfying others opinions & feelings. We are very busy working to pay all our debts & loans. Just spend half an hour a day in a peaceful place doing nothing except feeling what it is like to exist. When time permits, lie on the green grass and feel the earth. Practice simple relaxation techniques like whole body scanning, powerful techniques like yoga Nidra, or even taking five slow & deep breaths and feel the air coming in and going out can instantly relax yourself. Being obsessively busy is not a cosmic design. Just let go of your bus(y)ness of being busy and practice doing nothing.


108 Breaths per day – Route to Enlightenment


First of all, Do you know how many times you breathe per day? 21,600 times. 

That’s approximately 15 breaths per minute.

But before getting into enlightenment part, Why 108? What is the significance of 108?

108 is a powerful number used across all traditions and cultures across civilizations. You will see it everywhere, on a mala (rosary beads, rudraksh) or set of mantra counting beads.

Below are some of the many reasons, but none of these reasons are being promoted here as more or less true than the others. However, you may notice that 108 appears to be somewhat like a road map of reality in general, and the human in particular.

Desires: There are said to be 108 earthly desires in mortals.

Lies: There are said to be 108 lies that humans tell.

Delusions: There are said to be 108 human delusions or forms of ignorance.

Heart Chakra: The chakras are the intersections of energy lines, and there are said to be a total of 108 energy lines converging to form the heart chakra. One of them, sushumna leads to the crown chakra, and is said to be the path to Self-realization.

Sanskrit alphabet: There are 54 letters in the Sanskrit alphabet. Each has masculine and feminine, shiva and shakti. 54 times 2 is 108.

Upanishads: Some say there are 108 Upanishads, texts of the wisdom of the ancient sages.

Sri Yantra: On the Sri Yantra there are marmas where three lines intersect, and there are 54 such intersections. Each intersection has masculine and feminine, shiva and shakti qualities. 54 times 2 equals 108. Thus, there are 108 points that define the Sri Yantra as well as the human body.

Pentagon: The angle formed by two adjacent lines in a pentagon equals 108 degrees.

Marmas: Marmas or marmasthanas are like energy intersections called chakras, except have fewer energy lines converging to form them. There are said to be 108 marmas in the subtle body.

Time: Some say there are 108 feelings, with 36 related to the past, 36 related to the present, and 36 related to the future.

Astrology: There are 12 constellations, and 9 arc segments called namshas or chandrakalas. 9 times 12 equals 108. Chandra is moon, and kalas are the divisions within a whole.

River Ganga: The sacred River Ganga spans a longitude of 12 degrees (79 to 91), and latitude of 9 degrees (22 to 31). 12 times 9 equals 108.

Planets and Houses: In astrology, there are 12 houses and 9 planets. 12 times 9 equals 108.

Sun and Earth: The diameter of the Sun is 108 times the diameter of the Earth. The distance from the Sun to the Earth is 108 times the diameter of the Sun.

Moon and Earth: The average distance of the Moon from the Earth is 108 times the diameter of the Moon.

Silver and the moon: In astrology, the metal silver is said to represent the moon. The atomic weight of silver is 108.

Breath: Tantra estimates the average number of breaths per day at 21,600, of which 10,800 are solar energy, and 10,800 are lunar energy. Multiplying 108 by 100 is 10,800. Multiplying 2 x 10,800 equals 21,600.

Paths to God: Some suggest that there are 108 paths to God.

Pranayama: If one is able to be so calm in meditation as to have only 108 breaths in a day, enlightenment will come.

Now lets get to the enlightenment part of our article…

108 breaths per day – Are you really really serious about this?

This goal is really a tall order, unless your only goal in life is self-realization. But for the busy-bees, allow me to share with you a very simple technique towards this direction of 108 per day.

Warning: There are few side-effects like Peace of mind, clarity in thinking, De-stress, Emotional stability etc. by practicing this technique.

So, every journey starts with the first step.

Let us take the first step…

Can you atleast become aware of 108 breaths per day?

Let me assist you in this baby step towards self-realization.

So-Hum/So-Ham Breath Awareness Meditation:

Daily Practice:

  • Sit in a comfortable posture ( floor or on a chair, but with your spine erect)
  • With your eyes closed and focus between your eye brows(don’t strain yourself)
  • Keep your awareness on the breath flowing in and out
  • As the breath flows in mentally chant “So”
  • As the breath flows out mentally chant “Ham”
  • There are 108 “So-Ham” chants in the audio
  • Practice this simple “So-Ham” breath meditation for the next 30 days.

Let your journey begin today…Get back to me just in case, if the side effects are overwhelming.

Breath affects Peak Performance & Well-being

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Life is the period between one breath and the next; a person who half breathes, only half lives. He, who correctly breathes, acquires control of the whole being. HATHA YOGA PRADIPIKA -Ancient Yogic Literature

Each human being has a fixed number of breaths allotted. If one breathes slowly then one lives longer; if one breathes rapidly the given number of breaths get used up quicker resulting in a shorter and more stressed life. And that’s not the only problem……

Whatever aspect of life you need to succeed in…

  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Relationships
  • Career
  • Personal Effectiveness

Everyone is faced with the challenging question, “Can I have a better life, while pursuing my goals?” Yes, you can. All you need to do, is learn and practice how to breathe your way to success…

You probably know that your thoughts and your feelings, decide who you are and what you become. But do you know what connects your thoughts & feelings?

It’s your breath that connects thoughts, emotions, desires and actions.

Do you know how many times you breathe everyday? 21,600 times

Which body part  moves when you Inhale? Is it your tummy, chest or nothing moves?

When I asked the question “When you, Inhale, your tummy comes up or goes down”?, more than 50% of participants answered me that the tummy goes down below and many said, there is no movement at all. Very few answered that the tummy bulges up as they breathe in.

By learning to manage your breath, you can learn to manage your thoughts, emotions & actions. India had developed this scientific fact thousands of years ago and passed it down from generation to generation. Whether its meditation or yoga, the fundamental learning is, how to breathe right – number of breaths per minute, pattern, depth, etc

Change in food habits, sleeping pattern, physical activities, stress levels, etc, have all contributed to increasing man’s average breathing count to between 14 to 20 breaths per minute and made it more shallow.

Every emotion has a strong impact on your breathing pattern. Some emotions make the inhalation shallow, some make it slow, and some make it rapid while others make it deep. Since emotions affect our breath cycle, we end up breathing in an inefficient way.

Inefficient breathing leaves us drained and chronically fatigued, irritable, tired, emotionally strained and intellectually dull. In such a state, one cannot understand people or situations correctly; one cannot take proper decisions; and cannot communicate appreciations or critical suggestions in a positive manner. Such people become personally ineffective.

My Personal Research:

Look at the image below which is the breath-heart-brain pattern of one of my research subject.

The subject is breathing 18 times/minute in a shallow and improper rhythm. The heart is conditioned to beat at 105 times per minute and 93% low coherence with the brain. This is the way this person has conditioned his breath-heart-brain-emotions & actions. Many of us are unaware of this fact and continue with our lives expecting peak performance and inner well-being. 

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Indian Yogic Science had maintained that one’s breath needs to be slow and deep to improve one’s  Peak Performance & Inner well-being.  Now modern technology and neuroscience has discovered that the perfect balance of the autonomic nervous system happens at a breath count of 5 per min. Peak Performance & Inner Well-being requires a perfect autonomic balance.

This is how 5 breaths/minute will look like with a proper breath pattern, heart beating at 63 and a 100% coherence with the brain. This is my personal score using Heartmath emWave Biofeedback tool.

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True, slow & deep abdominal breathing has a profound effect onto your thoughts, desires, action, behaviour and even your belief system.

If you want MORE in your life, then LESS & deep should be your number of breaths per minute.

Breath@Work, a revolutionary new program that combines ancient Indian Science, Management Science & Neuro-Science. This potent mix empowers Breath@Work practitioners with the techniques needed to go from good to great in their chosen roles and professions.

As a Co-creator & Chief Scientist of Breath@Work, I say that, Leadership starts from within and we now have the technology and know-how to understand, practice & implement ancient yogic techniques for Performance & Well-being.

Upcoming workshop in Chennai, India on 18th Jan 2013.

Natural Laws for Happiness, Health, Success & Prosperity


Natural laws are like electricity. Whether you understand its functions or not, still you receive the benefits of it. Likewise, whether you agree or not, these laws continue to exist and apply in every facet of our lives. They are very simple and yet powerful. Some of the laws are:-

THE LAW OF THINKING – You become what you think about. The Universe will create the circumstances around you and bring people together to manifest the predominant thought in your mind.

THE LAW OF SUPPLY – There is more Supply than Demand – it is just a matter of Tapping into the source and the Supply becomes visible. The demand of travel faster across the globe, created the supply to the airways. The demand of more shops to cater the growing population – created the shopping malls.

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION – This is a secondary Law to the Law of Vibration. Everything vibrates at a particular frequency. It is through these vibrations, we attract things, people, circumstances towards us.

THE LAW OF RECEIVING – What you put out comes back. As you sow, so shall you reap. The Law of receiving explains that you will get (money, health, relations etc) directly in proportion to what you put out.

THE LAW OF INCREASE – This Universe is expanding since the Big Bang and everything is moving in an upward spiral – and so is your desire. As Bob says – Never be satisfied with what you have. You should be happy with what you have, but never be satisfied – as we are designed that way. We are here to GROW.

THE LAW OF COMPENSATION – The more service you provide to others the larger compensation you will receive.

THE LAW OF NON-RESISTANCE – Energy flows to and through you. Any blocks in the path of this Energy will cause a resistance and will stop the good coming into your life. Understand this law and create a channel for the greater good to flow in.

THE LAW OF FORGIVENESS – Forgive others for their mistakes – Forgive yourself for your mistakes. The more you dwell upon the mistakes and criticise others or yourself, the deeper you will be stuck in the problem.

THE LAW OF SACRIFICE – Sacrifice is when we let go something of a lower nature to receive something of higher nature

THE LAW OF OBEDIENCE – If you work with the Laws and respect the Laws, you will be rewarded will all the good that you desired, without facing any difficulty.

THE LAW OF SUCCESS – You will be successful, no matter what you do. Nature knows no failures. You have all that is required within you. All you need is to gain the right understanding of the principles and laws upon which success is based and then apply the right methods of operation these causes until the success is earned.

THE LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT – Everything happens for a reason; for every effect there is a specific cause. This law says that achievement, wealth, happiness, prosperity and business success are all the direct and indirect effects or results of specific causes or actions.

THE LAW OF SUBSTITUTION-   This law says that any point in time, the mind can hold only one thought at a time. It means you can either hold a positive thought or a negative thought. You can substitute any negative thought with a positive thought and hold onto this for some time. Successful people are always optimistic and very positive in their life because they always think what they want to achieve and how to achieve it.




Listening – Align your Breath, Heart & Brain

listenListening is simple, but not easy. Every head is a world!

Did you know that the number one reason for communication failure in relationships or business is failure to LISTEN.

What is Listening – It is a

1. Choice
2. Art
3. Gift

Choice: Choosing to listen is a decision. Many a times we are completely unaware that we are making a choice. Listening is not a passive activity. It’s not about being quiet or even hearing the words. It’s an action and it takes energy to listen.

It’s easier to notice conscious choices. If we don’t want to hear what someone is saying, we can tune him/her out in an instant. Once we become aware of listening as a choice, we will notice that we have many opportunities to practice choosing to listen in our daily lives. It is a profound awakening.

Gift: In fact, one of the greatest gifts we can give yourself or others is to listen to him or her with total attention. When somebody listens to you, he was simply there with you, you felt understood, refreshed, whole, connected and healed. Thinking about listening as a gift that you either give or receive places a new emphasis on the value of listening. It makes it easier to slow down or savor the conversation, either by opening up to receive the gift or by extending the hospitality of giving the gift.

Art: There are many wonderful techniques and tools from the Neuro-science & Indian Yogic science for more effective listening. It is a learn-able skill and the most important skill to cope up with the current stressful life.

So, Are you ready to learn?

Listening is a learn-able skill which involves alignment of all your 4 quadrants of the personality i.e., physical, mental, emotional & spiritual. All the four parts are closely inter-connected and ignoring any one will not yield in enhanced listening capabilities.

Everywhere I see people talk , explain & learn only the mental part of listening.

Effective listening requires three instruments or tools – Breath, Heart & Brain.

In TGR – Happyness Circle program, happening on 6th Jan 2013 , Chennai, India, I’m going to share a powerful technique which will help you to heighten your listening capabilities. For more information click this link and join us tomorrow: